Creating new habits…

Are you trying to make a change in your life?

Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

At first, it’s easy. It’s different, new and you are focussed on it. Maybe you are doing it as the result of something that inspired you. Inspiration makes light work of any task.


Then it gets tougher. The inspiration seems a distant memory, the changes seem slow, the old way of doing things seems much easier. It is such an effort now…

Imagine the consequences in detail:

  • What would (or wouldn’t) happen if I carry on with it?
  • What would (or wouldn’t) happen if I didn’t carry on with it?
  • How will I feel if I do this?
  • How will I feel if I don’t do this?
  • What will my life be like one year from now if I don’t follow this through?

Notice that each time you go through a tough time, it gets easier next time.

And vice versa. Just when it all seems easy, another tough spot comes along – hey ho.

So, be ready for the tough spots, and you will be able to push through them and in time, embed the new habit.

How badly do want that new habit?

It’s not so much about doing what you like, but liking the results of what you do.

We can only change who we are and what we habitually do to the extent that we can tolerate some discomfort during the change.


How OBVIOUS is this?

It’s NOT TOO LATE to do our bit to save the world – we (I) just need to think a bit smarter.

We buy The Cumberland and Westmorland Herald every week which, of course, we recycle. It is one of those big local papers.

Anyway, I was looking online for some paper bin liners for the kitchen caddy-thing to use instead of plastic and I came across several websites showing how to use newspaper to line little kitchen bins.

How OBVIOUS is this?

I could have been doing it for years. Hey ho. This is just one of them:


That is not my floor, by the way, image from website above.

Who listens to podcasts?

How many people listen to podcasts?

Podcasts are F A B

I am quite new to them but think they are WONDERFUL. So wonderful, in fact, that I am going to start doing them for Not Too Late at 58. I’m thinking a generic series first, then a series of Not Too Late at 58 – To start your own business.

I will aim to make them informal, entertaining, inspirational (I don’t like to put too much pressure on myself), and no more than 20 minutes for each episode.

They will be interspersed with interviews with other people who have made changes in their lives and/or started businesses when they reached ‘that certain age’. They might be longer than 20 minutes. I’ll see how it goes.

If you are such a person and would like to be interviewed, please let me know : )

I’ll let you know when they go live. I hope you will listen and give me some feedback.

Not Too Late at 58 – To write your first novel

Hello everyone

I am back after a cold/flu-ridden December/January AND jury service in the middle of it all! Hey ho – they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

So today I am working on an overview mind-map of Not Too Late at 58 – To write your first novel. This is how it looks at the moment…













Anyone interested? I did it, and have sold over 5000 copies of Judith wants to be your friend

I’m thinking weekend workshops in the beautiful Lake District : )

Statistics and damned…good stories

As well as anecdotal evidence of people aged 50+ doing amazing things, there is also statistical evidence to support the fact that those of us ‘of a certain age’ aren’t ready to put our feet up and take it easy.

If you live in the UK, you will know (even if you don’t watch it) that Debbie McGee is currently SMASHING IT on Strictly Come Dancing.

Also, last week, I caught the ‘Top Tenuous’ on the Chris Evans Breakfast Show on BBC Radio 2 which was about stuff people are doing aged 58 or over. They included a lot of sporty stuff, though not all:

  • Tracey about to complete a duathlon
  • Debbie who has taken up open-water skiing
  • Zyla’s mum who has started a law degree
  • Mandy’s husband who completed the London Marathon with his daughters
  • Heather and Nancy who are cycling from Land’s End to John O’Groats
  • Alex who completed the Coast-to-Coast cycle trip, has parachuted and has done white-water rafting

As part of my ‘day job’ I am an advisor for the Cumbria Chamber of Commerce Business Start-Up Programme and I see lots of people aged 50+ who want to, and do, start their own businesses.

Now Barclays Bank has reported an amazing trend in England and Wales over the last decade:

  • The number of businesses run by the over-55s has increased by 63%
  • The fastest-growing age group of business owners is the over-65s, an increase of 140%

The business sectors with the highest growth of business owners aged 55+ (from 2006 to 2016) are:

  • Health
  • Education
  • Professional
  • Real estate
  • Arts, recreation and culture

Barclays have even brought in Liz Earle, MBE to help them better support the needs of the more mature entrepreneur market.


The on-line course Not Too Late at 58 – Is NOW the right time for YOU? doesn’t have to be about massive sporting achievements, or writing novels, or starting your own business, although it could well be.


It’s about you NOT having that big regret later


It’s about you thinking through whether NOW is the time for you to make it happen for YOU. While there is still time.


BTW for a FREE SAMPLE from the course Not Too Late at 58 – Is NOW the right time for YOU? please CLICK HERE

No obligation – just give it (an me) a try!


See you there.



The ‘change equation’ to help you decide





Making the decision to follow your dream while there is still time involves CHANGE.

Most people believe that they don’t mind change, they even quite like it, but they don’t like being forced to change. Even so, it’s still hard to make it happen if you’ve been in the same routine for a long time.

Let me show you the Change Equation otherwise known as The Beckhard-Harris Change Model.


It goes like this D x V x F > R

D = DISSATISFACTION with the current state

V = VISION of how you would prefer things to be

F = FIRST STEPS you take to move to what you want


On a scale of 1 – 10 how dissatisfied are you with things now?

On a scale of 1 – 10 how clearly can you visualise having achieved what you want to achieve?

On a scale of 1 – 10 how committed are you to taking the first steps to achieve it?


Take these three figures and multiply them. Of course, if any of them are zero the answer is zero and will not be greater than R which is the RESISTANCE to the proposed change. D x V x F needs to be greater than R for the change to happen at all.


I think it is more difficult to score resistance. This model is used in business to help staff adapt to change but it is equally true of personal situations. Some factors causing resistance might be:

  • Thinking you will upset those around you
  • Scared to invest money in a new venture in case it doesn’t work out
  • Scared to ‘put yourself out there’ and be judged in some way (like me publishing Judith want to be your friend)
  • Believing you haven’t got the energy any more
  • Believing you’re not clever or skilled enough

Only you know what might be holding you back.


So, is NOW the right time for YOU?


My new pared-back on-line programme will be coming out soon. It’s called Not Too Late at 58 – Is NOW the right time for YOU? and will be only £47.


It might be the best £47 you spend

– either to help you make the best decision to change

– or to stop you making a huge mistake by jumping straight in


Click here for more information about the programme.