The Merriam-Webster on-line dictionary defines mid-life crisis as:
‘A period of emotional turmoil in middle age characterized especially by a strong desire for change.’
Well, that doesn’t seem too bad to me. I like change (as long as I’m initiating it) and there is turmoil everywhere in life. I will admit that the CAUSES of the mid-life crisis are sometimes out of our control but we can choose how we respond to them.
Some physical things simply need to be addressed:
- If your eyesight is failing, get glasses or lenses or laser eye surgery
- If your hearing is going, get a discreet hearing aid
- If your back is dodgy, get a car that you don’t need to crawl in and out of
Some physical things you can choose to embrace:
- Hair loss, for example, a lot of young men choose to shave their heads
- Grey/white hair can be very attractive in older men and women (or just dye it if you don’t like it!)
Some causes are more tricky to deal with:
- Children leaving home can be very difficult, but think of your new freedom
- Redundancy at work can be devastating, but while there’s time, you could think about trying something completely different
One of the biggest regrets of people of ‘a certain age’ is not achieving, or at least having a go achieving, long-held life ambitions.
Middle age is that time of life when we hear two voices calling us.
One saying, “Why not?”
And the other, “Why bother?”
Sydney J. Harris, American journalist (1917-1986)
Having reached that time myself, I went down the ‘Why not?’ route and haven’t regretted it yet.
Aged 58 I decided to publish my novel, Judith wants to be your friend.
And that led to my latest venture – helping other people of ‘a certain age’ to realise their dreams.